Types of Conflict

Pseudo Conflict refers to those misunderstandings in which we perceive that there is a conflict when there is none.

For instance, George and Malek may agree upon a topic but not realize this. They are interpreting one another's messages as being counter to their own messages. This failure to understand and to realize their misunderstanding creates relational conflict.

Rx: Listen mindfully and check your perceptions with your partner. Try to avoid assumptions and mindreading.

Ego Conflict occurs when we are emotionally invested in a decision. We believe that if others disagree with us, they are rejecting us. Thus, we become stubborn, willful, and proud.

Rx: Recognize that conflicts occur between the best of friends. No one will agree with another all the time. .Disagreements are not an indication that the relationship is in trouble. Show grace if you have been obstinate and recognize that you have been wrong. ..Learn to apologize and to take responsibility for creating an ego conflict.

Simple Conflict is a difference of opinion that both parties recognize, acknowledge and accept. The conflict may be over how to share limited resources, whom to support in an election, or where to dine.

Rx: Agree to disagree in an agreeable manner. If the issue is minor, it is easier to compromise or accommodate. If the issue is major, it's better to collaborate to resolve the conflict.

Best case scenario: Keep the conflict simple!